Infidel: Prophet married the wife of his adopted son! Sick!
Muslim: No, Prophet Mohamed did not marry his adopted son's "wife". He married his adopted son's "ex-wife". Someone's ex-wife is NOT his wife. For example, if you mother divorces your father and marries me, can your father claim that I am having sexual intercourse with his "wife"? No, he cannot because the moment your mother divorces your father, she is no longer your father's "wife" but a single woman.
Infidel: Okay, but Muslims are allowed to marry their adopted sons and daughters, right? this means Muslims are a bunch of pedophiles!
Muslim: A pedophile is an adult who is sexually attracted to children. A Muslim
is allowed to marry their adult adopted sons or daughters. Muslims do not marry children, therefore, they are not pedophiles.
Moreover, you need to understand that adoptive parents are not the really parents of adoptive children. There is a difference between your biological children and your adopted children. And because of that biological difference, God disallows you to marry biological children and allows you to marry your adopted children.
Your adopted son is not actually your son. Instead, he is the son of another man but lives in your house and call you "father". When your adopted son calls you "father", it doesn't make you your adopted son's "father". Your adopted son calls you "father" to show you equal respect to his real father but not because he believes you are his real "father". If we really physically become what we are called, then you would become a "donkey" if someone calls you "donkey" because your less-than-average intelligence. There are numerous cases when we people call things that we don't really mean. We call people those things to express our honor or affection for them. For example,
Moreover, you need to understand that adoptive parents are not the really parents of adoptive children. There is a difference between your biological children and your adopted children. And because of that biological difference, God disallows you to marry biological children and allows you to marry your adopted children.
Your adopted son is not actually your son. Instead, he is the son of another man but lives in your house and call you "father". When your adopted son calls you "father", it doesn't make you your adopted son's "father". Your adopted son calls you "father" to show you equal respect to his real father but not because he believes you are his real "father". If we really physically become what we are called, then you would become a "donkey" if someone calls you "donkey" because your less-than-average intelligence. There are numerous cases when we people call things that we don't really mean. We call people those things to express our honor or affection for them. For example,
- An elderly person can call a young person of his son's age "son" to express that he loves that young man just like he loves his son. (e.g., What's your name, son?)
- A person can call his priest "father" to express that he honers his priest just like he honors his father. (e.g, Bless me, father.)
- A younger person can call an order person "uncle" to express that she honers that man just like she honors her uncle. (e.g., May I help you to carry your bag, uncle?)
God says to Prophet (sw) in
the Quran 33:4 – “…He never made your adopted sons [truly] your
sons: these are [figures of] speech uttered by your mouths - whereas God
speaks the [absolute] truth: and it is He alone who can show [you] the right
path.” God also says in the Quran 33:4 – "God did not make your adopted
son as your own sons. To declare them so is your empty claim. God's word is
righteous and constitutes true guidance.”
The Quran 33:5
tells Muslims to let their adopted sons and daughters to use their real (biological) parents’ names to identify themselves instead of using adoptive parents’ names to identify themselves because adoptive parents are not really their parents but guardians or caretakers of them. The Quran 58:2 tells Muslims not to call anyone their fathers or mothers except their biological fathers or mothers who gave birth of them.
Therefore, it is clear that neither the adoptive parents cannot call their adopted children "son" or "daughter" nor the adopted children can call their adoptive parents "father" or "mother' because they are not really each other's parents or children.
References:
"Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah . But if you do not know their fathers - then they are [still] your brothers in religion and those entrusted to you..." (The Quran 33:5).
"Those who pronounce thihar among you [to separate] from their wives - they are not [consequently] their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving" (The Quran 58:2).
Therefore, it is clear that neither the adoptive parents cannot call their adopted children "son" or "daughter" nor the adopted children can call their adoptive parents "father" or "mother' because they are not really each other's parents or children.
References:
"Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah . But if you do not know their fathers - then they are [still] your brothers in religion and those entrusted to you..." (The Quran 33:5).
"Those who pronounce thihar among you [to separate] from their wives - they are not [consequently] their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving" (The Quran 58:2).
muslim are allow to married kids as young 6 years oil your prophet did aisha herself said so sahih al- bukhari 5134 book67 hadith70 also vol 7 book62 hadith65
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